We all have insecurities in our lives. But if we can become better at not letting those insecurities hold us back, we can accomplish more, and we can also get closer to becoming who God has called us and created us to be. But how do we overcome our insecurities? It seems like one of those things that’s a great idea but impossible to accomplish. But it’s not impossible, it just takes time, determination, and a greater understanding of who God says you are. So let’s jump in, here are 5 practical steps or mindsets I have found extremely helpful in getting past my insecurities.
1. Admit it
It’s like the old saying, “the first step to overcoming your problem is to admit you have a problem.” Don’t be afraid to admit out loud that you have insecurities and to tell someone what those insecurities are. When you say it out loud, you can give someone else permission to help you and to speak life to your situation, and also in a way you take away the power of your insecurity just by calling it out.
2. Fight it
Once you admit your insecurities, do something about it. Yes, it’s ok to not be ok, but it’s not ok to stay that way. Open up your Bible and read what God says about you, understand that you are fearfully and wonderfully made, that you are His masterpiece, and start to memorize those scriptures.
3. Build a team
Give people permission to call you out when you are operating out of your insecurities. Let people speak life over you and your situation. We all need gentle (and sometimes not so gentle) reminders to walk in confidence.
4. Humble yourself
Don’t assume other people are focused on your insecurities. When someone is talking to me, I generally am listening to what they are saying. I’m not thinking about their height or their weight or if they have clear skin or if they have good style. Why do we assume that people are just thinking about something that we are insecure about? I have to understand that not every situation is about me. When I am on stage preaching, that moment isn’t about me and it’s definitely not about my shortcomings. That moment is about Jesus and it’s about the Word of God. When I’m having a conversation, that moment is about listening to what someone has to say and being fully present at that moment. But most of us build up every moment and every interaction into something that is about us personally. Get over yourself. Everyone isn’t thinking about you all the time.
5. Stop comparing
When you compare yourself to someone else, you are most likely comparing the unpolished version of you to the polished version of them. You see other people’s highlight reels but you’re seeing your own behind the scenes. The reality is, they have their insecurities too, you just might not see them.
Grow in confidence! Not confidence in yourself or your own abilities, that’s how we become prideful. But grow in the confidence of who God is and what He has placed inside of you. And as you grow, become everything that God has called you and created you to be!
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